教室里唱起了生日歌

九(jiu)江金(jin)安高(gao)中  廖志元

初三上(shang)(shang)学(xue)(xue)(xue)期开学(xue)(xue)(xue)不(bu)久，班(ban)(ban)上(shang)(shang)一(yi)(yi)(yi)位(wei)学(xue)(xue)(xue)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)桌子周(zhou)(zhou)围放(fang)满了大(da)(da)大(da)(da)小小的(de)(de)(de)绒娃娃，以(yi)致堵塞交通，一(yi)(yi)(yi)看就(jiu)知道是(shi)(shi)她(ta)的(de)(de)(de)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)日(ri)(ri)到(dao)(dao)(dao)了。我(wo)(wo)想(xiang)提(ti)醒(xing)她(ta)不(bu)要(yao)把这(zhei)(zhei)些(xie)放(fang)在教室(shi)，但考虑到(dao)(dao)(dao)这(zhei)(zhei)是(shi)(shi)别人临时(shi)(shi)送的(de)(de)(de)，当(dang)然只能放(fang)在班(ban)(ban)上(shang)(shang)，另外怕影响学(xue)(xue)(xue)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)日(ri)(ri)的(de)(de)(de)快(kuai)(kuai)乐(le)。这(zhei)(zhei)事就(jiu)这(zhei)(zhei)样过(guo)去了，谁也没有(you)察觉我(wo)(wo)的(de)(de)(de)一(yi)(yi)(yi)时(shi)(shi)的(de)(de)(de)不(bu)快(kuai)(kuai)，甚(shen)至有(you)学(xue)(xue)(xue)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)认为(wei)我(wo)(wo)是(shi)(shi)默(mo)(mo)许。几周(zhou)(zhou)后，又(you)是(shi)(shi)一(yi)(yi)(yi)个(ge)(ge)学(xue)(xue)(xue)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)的(de)(de)(de)留(liu)级女生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)周(zhou)(zhou)围放(fang)满了生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)日(ri)(ri)礼(li)物(wu)(wu)，甚(shen)至还(hai)放(fang)到(dao)(dao)(dao)其(qi)他同(tong)(tong)(tong)学(xue)(xue)(xue)那(nei)里(li)(li)，教室(shi)俨然成(cheng)了精品礼(li)物(wu)(wu)店，还(hai)有(you)一(yi)(yi)(yi)个(ge)(ge)男(nan)(nan)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)抽屉里(li)(li)送着一(yi)(yi)(yi)个(ge)(ge)大(da)(da)大(da)(da)的(de)(de)(de)棒(bang)棒(bang)糖（他说(shuo)花了10元钱）。这(zhei)(zhei)次(ci)我(wo)(wo)不(bu)能沉默(mo)(mo)，沉默(mo)(mo)就(jiu)是(shi)(shi)对这(zhei)(zhei)风气的(de)(de)(de)助长。眼保(bao)健操时(shi)(shi)，我(wo)(wo)问：“今天(tian)是(shi)(shi)谁生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)日(ri)(ri)啊？我(wo)(wo)们(men)一(yi)(yi)(yi)起(qi)送件礼(li)物(wu)(wu)给她(ta)好不(bu)好？来(lai)(lai)，全班(ban)(ban)同(tong)(tong)(tong)学(xue)(xue)(xue)站(zhan)起(qi)来(lai)(lai)唱(chang)《生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)日(ri)(ri)快(kuai)(kuai)乐(le)歌》。”50多位(wei)同(tong)(tong)(tong)学(xue)(xue)(xue)齐刷刷地(di)站(zhan)起(qi)来(lai)(lai)认真(zhen)地(di)唱(chang)着歌，寿星安坐在座位(wei)上(shang)(shang)。唱(chang)完了，有(you)同(tong)(tong)(tong)学(xue)(xue)(xue)说(shuo)，今天(tian)还(hai)是(shi)(shi)某(mou)某(mou)的(de)(de)(de)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)日(ri)(ri)，那(nei)是(shi)(shi)一(yi)(yi)(yi)个(ge)(ge)男(nan)(nan)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)，他没有(you)收(shou)到(dao)(dao)(dao)一(yi)(yi)(yi)份(fen)礼(li)物(wu)(wu)。这(zhei)(zhei)时(shi)(shi)我(wo)(wo)可以(yi)想(xiang)像他当(dang)时(shi)(shi)是(shi)(shi)多么(me)的(de)(de)(de)羡慕、失落和沮丧。这(zhei)(zhei)种风气不(bu)仅造成(cheng)互相攀比的(de)(de)(de)恶(e)性循环，也极大(da)(da)刺伤了寂寞者的(de)(de)(de)心(xin)。“同(tong)(tong)(tong)学(xue)(xue)(xue)们(men)，我(wo)(wo)们(men)再(zai)来(lai)(lai)唱(chang)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)日(ri)(ri)歌吧！”教室(shi)里(li)(li)再(zai)次(ci)唱(chang)起(qi)了《生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)日(ri)(ri)快(kuai)(kuai)乐(le)歌》，歌声(sheng)在教室(shi)里(li)(li)回响，飘荡在学(xue)(xue)(xue)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)们(men)的(de)(de)(de)心(xin)上(shang)(shang)，那(nei)位(wei)腼腆的(de)(de)(de)小男(nan)(nan)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)，也跟其(qi)他同(tong)(tong)(tong)学(xue)(xue)(xue)一(yi)(yi)(yi)起(qi)站(zhan)起(qi)来(lai)(lai)唱(chang)歌，声(sheng)音不(bu)是(shi)(shi)很(hen)大(da)(da)，却很(hen)投(tou)入。同(tong)(tong)(tong)一(yi)(yi)(yi)天(tian)生(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)(sheng)日(ri)(ri)，一(yi)(yi)(yi)个(ge)(ge)收(shou)到(dao)(dao)(dao)礼(li)物(wu)(wu)，一(yi)(yi)(yi)个(ge)(ge)什么(me)也没有(you)收(shou)到(dao)(dao)(dao)，一(yi)(yi)(yi)个(ge)(ge)心(xin)安理得地(di)接(jie)受同(tong)(tong)(tong)学(xue)(xue)(xue)们(men)的(de)(de)(de)祝福，一(yi)(yi)(yi)个(ge)(ge)心(xin)怀感(gan)动真(zhen)心(xin)享受这(zhei)(zhei)意(yi)外的(de)(de)(de)礼(li)物(wu)(wu)。

唱(chang)完了生(sheng)(sheng)日歌，我(wo)说：“同(tong)学们(men)，生(sheng)(sheng)日时(shi)，我(wo)们(men)送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)什(shen)么(me)呢？送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)几十元的(de)(de)(de)(de)礼物(wu)，送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)张卡片，还(hai)是送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)份祝福？要(yao)知(zhi)道(dao)现在你(ni)(ni)送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)的(de)(de)(de)(de)每一(yi)分钱，都不(bu)是你(ni)(ni)的(de)(de)(de)(de)劳动所(suo)得，不(bu)能(neng)真(zhen)正代表你(ni)(ni)的(de)(de)(de)(de)心意；要(yao)知(zhi)道(dao)，你(ni)(ni)送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)的(de)(de)(de)(de)‘贵重’礼物(wu)会(hui)成为别人(ren)负(fu)担，别人(ren)苦于(yu)这些东西没处放，又没什(shen)么(me)用，他(ta)们(men)也苦于(yu)下次送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)什(shen)么(me)生(sheng)(sheng)日礼物(wu)给(ji)你(ni)(ni)。送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)礼物(wu)是种浪(lang)费，金钱的(de)(de)(de)(de)浪(lang)费，情感的(de)(de)(de)(de)浪(lang)费。送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)张卡片吧，你(ni)(ni)真(zhen)诚的(de)(de)(de)(de)祝福会(hui)伴随他(ta)的(de)(de)(de)(de)一(yi)生(sheng)(sheng)；送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)句(ju)问候吧，你(ni)(ni)朴(po)素的(de)(de)(de)(de)话语(yu)会(hui)温暖他(ta)的(de)(de)(de)(de)内心；送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)句(ju)忠告吧，你(ni)(ni)逆耳的(de)(de)(de)(de)良言会(hui)让他(ta)的(de)(de)(de)(de)人(ren)生(sheng)(sheng)路更笔直(zhi)。生(sheng)(sheng)日送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)什(shen)么(me)？我(wo)们(men)倡(chang)导：今(jin)年生(sheng)(sheng)日不(bu)收礼，愿君只送(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)(song)金玉言。”

此后，再也没有(you)出(chu)现(xian)生(sheng)(sheng)日(ri)礼(li)物堆满教(jiao)室的(de)情况(kuang)了，学(xue)生(sheng)(sheng)过(guo)了一(yi)个个平常的(de)生(sheng)(sheng)日(ri)。对学(xue)生(sheng)(sheng)的(de)教(jiao)育(yu)，要有(you)敏锐的(de)洞察(cha)力。出(chu)现(xian)问(wen)题(ti)，我们不是一(yi)味的(de)批评教(jiao)育(yu)，一(yi)味的(de)野蛮禁止，而是站(zhan)在学(xue)生(sheng)(sheng)的(de)立(li)场去思(si)考问(wen)题(ti)，以朋友的(de)身(shen)份加(jia)以引导，往往能(neng)起到良好(hao)的(de)效果(guo)。

那是一(yi)(yi)个温(wen)文尔雅(ya)的(de)(de)女(nv)生，成(cheng)绩良好，英语竞赛年级第一(yi)(yi)，代表学校参加决赛，最近却上(shang)课总与别人讲(jiang)话(hua)(hua)，这(zhei)(zhei)在(zai)以(yi)(yi)前是没(mei)有(you)(you)过(guo)的(de)(de)事情，这(zhei)(zhei)里面(mian)一(yi)(yi)定有(you)(you)问题。课后(hou)(hou)我(wo)把她(ta)(ta)叫到(dao)办公室，问她(ta)(ta)什(shen)么(me)原因，跟她(ta)(ta)讲(jiang)上(shang)课的(de)(de)重(zhong)要(yao)性。她(ta)(ta)当时没(mei)有(you)(you)回答我(wo)，后(hou)(hou)来以(yi)(yi)纸条(tiao)的(de)(de)形式告诉我(wo)，她(ta)(ta)之所(suo)以(yi)(yi)这(zhei)(zhei)样做(zuo)是因为她(ta)(ta)觉得父母的(de)(de)爱(ai)全倾注在(zai)弟(di)弟(di)身(shen)上(shang)，而(er)不(bu)关心她(ta)(ta)，她(ta)(ta)想通(tong)过(guo)讲(jiang)话(hua)(hua)来让(rang)自己成(cheng)绩差(cha)一(yi)(yi)点(dian)，以(yi)(yi)学习(xi)的(de)(de)退步(bu)(bu)来引起父母的(de)(de)注意(yi)和关爱(ai)。这(zhei)(zhei)是多(duo)么(me)幼稚和愚蠢的(de)(de)想法。虽(sui)然我(wo)后(hou)(hou)来没(mei)有(you)(you)再(zai)找她(ta)(ta)，因为没(mei)有(you)(you)必要(yao)，这(zhei)(zhei)样的(de)(de)学生一(yi)(yi)点(dian)就明，不(bu)需要(yao)太多(duo)的(de)(de)教育，在(zai)两周(zhou)后(hou)(hou)的(de)(de)月考(kao)中，她(ta)(ta)的(de)(de)成(cheng)绩还有(you)(you)了进(jin)步(bu)(bu)。我(wo)真不(bu)敢想，如果没(mei)有(you)(you)指出她(ta)(ta)的(de)(de)错(cuo)误，她(ta)(ta)习(xi)惯(guan)(guan)于上(shang)课讲(jiang)话(hua)(hua)，习(xi)惯(guan)(guan)于成(cheng)绩“差(cha)”，她(ta)(ta)会成(cheng)为什(shen)么(me)样子(zi)。

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